"A life-changing, lifesaving book for anyone and everyone. Anti-transgender legislation has been introduced all across the United States in record-breaking numbers. Trans people are under attack in sports, healthcare, entertainment, school and education, bathrooms, and nearly everywhere else. He/She/They clearly and compassionately addresses fundamental topics, from how being transgender is not a choice and why pronouns are important, to more complex issues including how gender-affirming healthcare can be lifesaving and why allowing trans youth to play sports is good for all kids. With a relatable narrative rooted in facts, science, and history, Schuyler Bailar helps restore common sense and humanity to a discussion that continues to be divisively co-opted and deceptively politicized. Schuyler didn't set out to be an activist, but his very public transition to the Harvard men's swim team put him in the spotlight. His choice to be open about his journey and share his experience has touched people around the world, and his plain-spoken education has evolved into tireless advocacy for inclusion and collective liberation. In He/She/They, Schuyler uses storytelling and the art of conversation to give readers the essential language and context of gender, meeting everyone where they are and paving the way for understanding, acceptance, and -- most importantly -- connection. He/She/They is more than a book on allyship; it also speaks to trans folks directly and answers the question, "Does it get better?" with a resounding yes, celebrating radical trans joy. Myth-busting, affirming, compassionate, and fierce, He/She/They is a crucial, urgent -- and lifesaving -- book that forever changes the conversation about gender."
CONTENTS
Finding the Right Words: Terminology
Biological Sex: More Complicated Than Grade School Science!
What Is Gender?
Surgery? Hormones? Haircuts?
Pronouns and Why They Are So Important!
How Do People Know If They're Transgender?
Gender Dysphoria: Being Transgender Is Not a Mental Illness
Coming Out, or Inviting in
So You Think You're Not Transphobic?
Things Not to Say to Trans People
What Kids Teach Us About Gender
Gender-affirming Care
What I've Learned About Being Trans--from Kids!
Peeing in Peace: Trans People and Bathrooms
Trans People and Dating
"You Lied to Me": Trans People and Disclosure
Trans Athletes and Sports
Toxic Masculinity From the Lens of a Transgender Man
Trans, Korean, Mixed-race, Athlete: Whew, the Intersectionality!
Internalized Transphobia and Its Antidote: Radical Trans Joy
Allyship
Love Transcends
As You Embark, Take Me With You